Mend a fence and heal a hurt

Today is National Kiss & Make Up Day - so it seems to us to be the perfect time to encourage everyone to end a quarrel and mend a fence.

If you were the one in the wrong offer an apology. Yes, sometimes saying "I'm sorry" is quite difficult. Some people know they should apologize but cannot seem to bring themselves to do the deed because they feel it's a sign of weakness. That could not be further from the truth. Offering a heart-felt apology is truly a sign of strength of character. You are willing to admit you made a mistake - caused offense or pain. And you want to make it right. No one is perfect. We all need to apologize from time to time and when you apologize and truly mean it, everyone involved feels better. What's not to love about that?

We've all seen in the headlines over the years enough botched attempts to apologize (usually by a public figure) that we basically know what not to do when we want to apologize. Hopefully, when you need to apologize it won't be on the world stage! Here are our three tips for giving a top-drawer apology that will not only improve your relationship and reputation but will also mend fences:

1. Never start an apology with, "I'm sorry that you feel ..." - that is not an apology and it implies you think the other person is overly-sensitive

2. Be specific - mention what you regret doing and ask for forgiveness

3. Ask if there is anything you can do to make the situation better

If, on the other hand, you've been the one holding onto a grudge consider lightening your load. That too can bring some well-deserved peace of mind. If this last seventeen months have shown us anything it is that life is too short to not take advantage of National Kiss & Make Up Day.

But this advice does not mean ever re-engaging with toxic people. Leave that door closed!

Have a marvelous week -